Why is it more acceptable for a boyfriend to flirt with women but not when the girlfriend flirts?

This question is racking my brains.





The majority of the posts on singles and dating reference how flirtation is something the girlfriend should accept about her man, while many comments referring to a flirtatious girlfriend label her a ';b****';, ';s***'; or otherwise looked down disapprovingly.





WHY the double standards? Please, give me a thought provoking answer...i'm not satisfied with a response like, ';the constraints of a patriarchal society.';














Is it an issue of control? Perhaps the treatment of females is an external projection of the insecurities of men. Call me a feminist if you want, but it appears to be an active theory.Why is it more acceptable for a boyfriend to flirt with women but not when the girlfriend flirts?
men have been stereotypically writing in some huge book of life that were perverts and flirt with anything that breathes. so in public society its ';natural'; for a guy to flirt which is somewhat of a sexist comment showing that if guys flirt purposely, there's a better chance of their control over themselves loosening and getting out of hand which leads to ';accidental'; cheating.. the same argument can be led with females saying that their flirtatious behavior is to get something out of a man because were all suckers for some good breasts. so speaking in those terms i say in neither sex is it ok to flirt while in a relationship. it can be thought of as cheating or manipulating on both sides of the chart.. hope that helps





please answer mine





http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AtG4UfUx3LojtXQgoY9wkd0azKIX;_ylv=3?qid=20090703140714AAlDVGRWhy is it more acceptable for a boyfriend to flirt with women but not when the girlfriend flirts?
If a guy is in a relationship he shouldn't flirt with other women, it's almost cheating.





Also, it's much better than 50 years ago, so it should get better with time, if enough women and men take a stand to make it better of course.





And your not being a feminist. Back in the day feminist was a good thing, it meant you were progressive in getting women the same rights as men, now a days there are people for equality among the sexes, and then there are feminists who say they are fighting for equality but are giving women more rights than men.
In era's before this generation - it was a proper thing that the guy made all the first moves .. they even said the first hello -- made the first phone call .. did the first everything. AND - if the lady did it first -- it was considered very wrong and inappropriate.





In this generation .. it doesn't matter for most people who does whatever first... however - this old rule still lingers for some people.





In older times .. men tipped their hats to ladies, they opened doors for ladies, they even stopped and let ladies pass first.
I think you hit the proverbial nail on the head. I think it is based on the insecurity of men. Not all men are like that. One of my best friends is a big flirt, but her husband doesn't have a problem with it because he is secure in her love for him.
I do not see that it is condoned for men anymore.


While the playing field is not entirely level, I am having a hard time recalling when I saw such unequal treatment.


It should be equal.
The common sense answer would be ';Men beat up their girlfriend a lot more often than women beat up the boyfriend.'; But I have very much noticed in the ';Marriage %26amp; Divorce'; section that there is lot more anti-woman prejudice than anti-man.
Society is sexist
in neither case is it ok